Practicing for better or worse early!

It has been a while since I’ve wrote on my blog. I’ve been sick and I had to have surgery. I just have to write to let everyone know that I KNOW I am marrying the right person. My fiancé has stuck by me since I started feeling bad. He is been waiting on me 24/7. He took off work for a week to be here with me. He has been running up and down the stairs every time I need him. He made me realize that he is there for me. I already knew it but this was a test for the both of us and he passed it! Hands down, go baby!  He is showing me what for better or worse means even before we get married. He has been cooking, cleaning, taking care of me, and taking care of Jackson. He even washed my car. I haven’t driven it in over a week. At least I know when it is time for me to get out the house; I will have a clean car. I need to ask him to put some gas in it too because I think it was almost on empty the last time I drove it. Ok maybe I won’t overdo it. I asked him on a scale of 1 to 10, how much am I getting on his nerves (with 10 being the highest). He said a 2. That is pretty good. My baby loves me. Then jokingly he said when I am not sick, it is a 7. I totally ignored that comment. Seriously, I am so happy and I am truly blessed to have someone as good as him!

Spending Holidays Together

Although I’m excited about going home for Thanksgiving, I’m also sad that I will not be with Brian. This weekend will be our third time being away from each other this year. It is only for a couple of days, but it feels like it is going to be forever. I’m going to have to get used to being away from him since we will continue to take our separate trips with friends and families. I just love that we both feel the same way about being away from one another. Today I told him that it is really hard for me to leave him this weekend. I was thrilled when he told that he feels the same way and asked what are we going to do about it. Well that started a new and well needed discussion. I think it is very important to talk about things before you get married so you will know what to expect before saying “I do”.

How do we spend time with our families and still see each other during holidays? Once we get married, we will be together for holidays and just rotate Thanksgiving and Christmas with our families. So if we go to my family’s house for Thanksgiving, we will spend Christmas at his family house and vice versa. I guess the same will go for Memorial Day and 4^th of July. We haven’t gotten that far yet. Now Labor Day will have to be at our house or some ravish vacation spot since my birthday normally falls close to Labor Day (and we all know that we have to do it big for my birthday). Really it doesn’t matter where we spend holidays or any other day just as long as we are together every day. We hug and kiss (quick peck; nothing like that) every time we see each other. I don’t care if I have to run to the store for about 15 minutes, we still hug and kiss when I return. If he is upstairs and then come down stairs, we hug and kiss.  I couldn’t imagine not being able to see him for a few days and I couldn’t imagine not getting my hug and kiss from him at least once a day.  I just hope the desire we have to see each other every day last forever!

Remember, That Child Grows Up

I had the pleasure of being around 5 babies today. All the babies are so cute, funny, and full of life. Sometimes I wonder will I get a chance to experience the joy of motherhood. I know it will be a great and wonderful thing, but it has to be hard to raise children these days. There is so much going on in the world today. I would want to love and protect my child(ren) at all times. How do you protect your children against the world? How do people abuse, neglect, and mistreat children. It’s bad enough they have to get bullied and abused by their peers, but for an adult to mistreat children is sad, despicable, and disgraceful.

This post started out about how I wanted to start my journey to motherhood and I just couldn’t help but to think about the unfortunate children in the world today.

To the parents who neglects their child because they can’t stand being around the mother or father, remember that child grows up. To the parents who beat their child, remember that child grows up. To the parents who neglect their child, remember that child grows up. To the parents who molest and rape their child, remember that child grows up. To the parents who make their child live in filth and go without meals, remember that child grows up.

Like I tell everyone, remember that child grows up and the harm you’ve done to them will live with them forever. They might find it in their heart to forgive and forget, but they will continue to carry it with them for the rest of their lives.

I’ve never understood why people who can’t love a child unconditionally have children. There are so many harmless children in the world today. We need to guild and protect our children.

Two free nights

So everyone knows I am NOT a fan of cooking. When I first the Mr., he did all of the cooking for me (when we were not eating out). Well for the past 2 years, I've been doing most of the cooking. For the past week, I haven't been feeling well so we've been eating out a lot. I took some meat out the freezer Saturday, but I didn't cook it. Sunday, I forgot I took some meat out the day before so I took some more out and guess what...I didn't cook it. Yesterday, I called him and asked what he wanted for dinner. He said not to worry about it because he picked something up. I didn't want takeout again, but I was just happy I didn't have come home and cook anything. To my surprise when I got home, we didn't have takeout. He actually grilled. He went to the grocery store and got some food to grill (even though we had all of that stuff at home). It reminded me of the old days when he used to cook for me. I felt so special and we will be eating it again today for lunch and tonight for dinner. I got 2 free nights!

Enjoying the simple things in life

For anyone who knows me knows I love nice and fancy things. After a while, all of those things do not mean anything. I've learned to enjoy the simple things in life. I like simple things now such as staying at home and sitting in Brian's man cave (when he lets me) with him and Jackson watching a movie and eating popcorn. Yesterday, we were waiting to pick up some medicine and they said it would take 15 minutes. We ended up going next door to Wendy's. We ordered off the value menu. We spent less than $8 and in that moment I realized you don't have to spend a lot to have a good time. We were sitting there eating our frosty and I said, "you know what; I really love you and I'm in love with you". He said, "I love you too and where did that come from". I said, "I was just sitting here thinking regardless where we are and what we are doing, I enjoy spending every moment with you". He said "I feel the same way. It is good being with you and it is good enjoying the simple things in life". As many people say, life isn't complicated; we make it that way. Sit back and think about what makes you happy. If material and expensive things make you happy, you are going to have some really sad and hard days.

The perfect man with the perfect (last) name.

Hello. Welcome to my new blog. I am just getting started so be patient with me. I am engaged to the best man ever. I know all women say the same thing, but I honestly believe it. It’s funny because he once said that I hated men when we first met. I am not sure how true that is, but I truly didn’t believe in real love until I met him. I knew right away that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Actually I probably only wanted to spend a few months with him since I was running away from relationships. Every moment I spent with him made me change my perspective on men, love, and relationships. He managed to turn a bitter girl into a lovely woman. He is everything I’ve ever wanted in a man from the looks, personality, beliefs, etc. The one thing I just love about him and that I can’t get over; we share the same last name.  Yes, Ladies Brian and I have the same name and we are NOT related. So that means I get to keep my maiden name without hyphenating it. The only downside to us sharing the same last name is I can’t name my future son Walker. I don’t think he will appreciate being called Walker Walker.