36 days left!

WOW I can’t believe I only have 36 days left until the wedding. This time has gone by so slow!!!! I just realized that we’ve been engaged for almost a year. Well it will be 11 ½ month engagement. I really wasn’t trying to have a yearlong engagement, but we didn’t make up our mind about having a wedding until September instead of June. I actually regret deciding to go with the wedding. This has been painful and stressful and EXPENSIVE! I didn’t plan on spending this much money. Plus we wanted to keep it small and intimate and somehow this wedding has turned into almost 150 people. Who are all of these folks. LOL. I really appreciate all the love we are getting from our family and friends. I’m glad everyone wants to spend that special moment with us, but when I say everyone, I mean everyone. Especially people who I (we) don’t even talk too or know. That’s the crazy part. I don’t think I would invite myself to anyone’s wedding especially someone I am not that close too. Facebook friends does not mean we are friends and does not mean you can come to our wedding. As the young people say, IJS. Everyone can’t come because I am not trying to spend all the extra money. Plus we have a small venue and people just don’t seem to understand that. So we also decided not to have children at our wedding. You would’ve thought we cursed out people kids. Some people are mad at us for that and guess what, I don’t care. It is our day and I’m not going to let anyone ruin it. If you can’t find a babysitter, stay at home. I will not listen to kids screaming and crying and I will not pay full price for a child to eat when they will take one bite or 2. Call me mean and selfish, I don’t care. I guess it is hard for me to understand since I don’t have children. That’s fine. That is my choice. Sorry if this post offends anyone, but I just have to vent. Like I said, this is our wedding and our post so we (I) can say our we feel. Happy planning and I can’t wait to see my close friends and family at my wedding and I guess I will have to deal with the other people we don’t know.

80 days (left) update

WOW, I can’t believe I am 80 days away from the wedding. I haven’t been on my blog in almost 2 months. I just haven’t been in the mood to write. So much has happened since I’ve been here last. I am pretty much done with the wedding planning. Right now, I mainly have to work on my guest list and invitations. This is going to be so hard since we both have a large family and a lot of friends. We are going to have to keep the wedding small. We need to narrow our list down to 100 people so that is basically 50 people each. We are going to have to only invite immediate family and very close friends. Since most of our friends are in the wedding party, most of our other guests will be family. Since our guest list is limited, we’ve decided not to invite anyone under 21. I know this will leave a lot of people disappointed, but they will have to understand that our venue and budge will not allow a lot of people. We will have some children but only the ones that are in our wedding.

Speaking of children in the wedding, I didn’t realize that shopping for flower girl dresses would be as hard as it was. I think that is the main thing that had me stressed out. It was hard finding a dress that looked nice as well as looks good on all my flower girls. I had 3. I actually purchased a colored dress but that didn’t work out with the girls’ sizes so I ended up sending them back. I finally just found a basic white dress. I hope they call all fit it. Out of the 3, only 1 has tried it on. I am still waiting on the other 2 to get their dress. If they can’t fit it then oh well, I’ve done my part. Like bridesmaids, flower girls can get kicked out the wedding too.

Now enough of the flower girls dresses, but speaking of dresses, I actually purchased another dress. I have 2 wedding dresses and I have no clue which one to wear. My family and friends like 1 dress but I like the other one better. We will see how this ends up. I think shopping for my wedding dress with my friends and family and filming for Say Yes to the Dress were all so overwhelming so I decided to go alone one day. It was actually better shopping alone. I got my shoes also. They are beyond perfect. I love them so much. I want to wear them right now but I have to wait until the special day.

So the only things I really need to do now are finish my invitations, finalize everything with my vendors, find shoes for the flower girls, finalize my menu, and get married!

Hopefully I will be back soon with more updates.

Trying to get the small details out the way

Now that we are in the New Year and it is actually 2012, I just realized that we have a little less than 5 months until the wedding. I’m in the process of really trying to get things together now (especially small details). Last week, my fiancé and I went to the food tasting and met the chef who is catering our wedding. The food is so good. I’m so excited and I’m ready to eat. We are going to have some heavy food. It is late an evening wedding so I figured people will be hungry. If you are looking for really cute finger food then this is not the wedding for you to attend.

I finally picked out my flower girls dresses. I’m excited about that especially the color. My wedding is really not traditional and somewhat different. I’m switching things up. Either people will really love it or really hate it! Either way, I will love it!

I finally got my flower girl baskets, guestbook and pen set, garter, ring bearer pillow, and sand ceremony set. I also got my jewelry and veil. I love veils. They are so cute and they really bring out your dress. Now I’m debating on my shoes. I want a funky color, but my fiancé and one of my bridesmaids doesn’t see my vision for colorful shoes on my special day. We will see what I pick. There are so many small details when it comes to preparing for weddings. I’m finally excited.

Next week: cake tasting! CAKE, CAKE, CAKE. I LOVE CAKE. I can’t wait to taste all of the delicious cakes around Atlanta. Until we meet again…happy wedding shopping!   

Practicing for better or worse early!

It has been a while since I’ve wrote on my blog. I’ve been sick and I had to have surgery. I just have to write to let everyone know that I KNOW I am marrying the right person. My fiancé has stuck by me since I started feeling bad. He is been waiting on me 24/7. He took off work for a week to be here with me. He has been running up and down the stairs every time I need him. He made me realize that he is there for me. I already knew it but this was a test for the both of us and he passed it! Hands down, go baby!  He is showing me what for better or worse means even before we get married. He has been cooking, cleaning, taking care of me, and taking care of Jackson. He even washed my car. I haven’t driven it in over a week. At least I know when it is time for me to get out the house; I will have a clean car. I need to ask him to put some gas in it too because I think it was almost on empty the last time I drove it. Ok maybe I won’t overdo it. I asked him on a scale of 1 to 10, how much am I getting on his nerves (with 10 being the highest). He said a 2. That is pretty good. My baby loves me. Then jokingly he said when I am not sick, it is a 7. I totally ignored that comment. Seriously, I am so happy and I am truly blessed to have someone as good as him!

Spending Holidays Together

Although I’m excited about going home for Thanksgiving, I’m also sad that I will not be with Brian. This weekend will be our third time being away from each other this year. It is only for a couple of days, but it feels like it is going to be forever. I’m going to have to get used to being away from him since we will continue to take our separate trips with friends and families. I just love that we both feel the same way about being away from one another. Today I told him that it is really hard for me to leave him this weekend. I was thrilled when he told that he feels the same way and asked what are we going to do about it. Well that started a new and well needed discussion. I think it is very important to talk about things before you get married so you will know what to expect before saying “I do”.

How do we spend time with our families and still see each other during holidays? Once we get married, we will be together for holidays and just rotate Thanksgiving and Christmas with our families. So if we go to my family’s house for Thanksgiving, we will spend Christmas at his family house and vice versa. I guess the same will go for Memorial Day and 4^th of July. We haven’t gotten that far yet. Now Labor Day will have to be at our house or some ravish vacation spot since my birthday normally falls close to Labor Day (and we all know that we have to do it big for my birthday). Really it doesn’t matter where we spend holidays or any other day just as long as we are together every day. We hug and kiss (quick peck; nothing like that) every time we see each other. I don’t care if I have to run to the store for about 15 minutes, we still hug and kiss when I return. If he is upstairs and then come down stairs, we hug and kiss.  I couldn’t imagine not being able to see him for a few days and I couldn’t imagine not getting my hug and kiss from him at least once a day.  I just hope the desire we have to see each other every day last forever!

Remember, That Child Grows Up

I had the pleasure of being around 5 babies today. All the babies are so cute, funny, and full of life. Sometimes I wonder will I get a chance to experience the joy of motherhood. I know it will be a great and wonderful thing, but it has to be hard to raise children these days. There is so much going on in the world today. I would want to love and protect my child(ren) at all times. How do you protect your children against the world? How do people abuse, neglect, and mistreat children. It’s bad enough they have to get bullied and abused by their peers, but for an adult to mistreat children is sad, despicable, and disgraceful.

This post started out about how I wanted to start my journey to motherhood and I just couldn’t help but to think about the unfortunate children in the world today.

To the parents who neglects their child because they can’t stand being around the mother or father, remember that child grows up. To the parents who beat their child, remember that child grows up. To the parents who neglect their child, remember that child grows up. To the parents who molest and rape their child, remember that child grows up. To the parents who make their child live in filth and go without meals, remember that child grows up.

Like I tell everyone, remember that child grows up and the harm you’ve done to them will live with them forever. They might find it in their heart to forgive and forget, but they will continue to carry it with them for the rest of their lives.

I’ve never understood why people who can’t love a child unconditionally have children. There are so many harmless children in the world today. We need to guild and protect our children.

Two free nights

So everyone knows I am NOT a fan of cooking. When I first the Mr., he did all of the cooking for me (when we were not eating out). Well for the past 2 years, I've been doing most of the cooking. For the past week, I haven't been feeling well so we've been eating out a lot. I took some meat out the freezer Saturday, but I didn't cook it. Sunday, I forgot I took some meat out the day before so I took some more out and guess what...I didn't cook it. Yesterday, I called him and asked what he wanted for dinner. He said not to worry about it because he picked something up. I didn't want takeout again, but I was just happy I didn't have come home and cook anything. To my surprise when I got home, we didn't have takeout. He actually grilled. He went to the grocery store and got some food to grill (even though we had all of that stuff at home). It reminded me of the old days when he used to cook for me. I felt so special and we will be eating it again today for lunch and tonight for dinner. I got 2 free nights!